RELATIONAL BULLYING

Hey guys, it's FAI here. How are you all? I hope you guys are doing great.

My first topic is about relational bullying. I know that some of you know what is relational bullying but I'll just give a little information about relational bullying. Relational bullying is really common in between school girls, it doesn't matter whether it's preschool, primary, middle school or high school there will be this case. So if any of you have an older sister, little sister, daughter or nieces please beware of this case.

Relational Bullying or bullying with exclusionary tactics, involves deliberately preventing someone from joining or being a part of a group, whether it's during lunch breaks, games, sports or social activities. Relational Bullying can be spotted on a child, young teen and teenagers by watching at their mood changes, withdrawal from peer group and a shift toward being alone more than usual. 

I have experience this kind of bully for 8 years and it will happen again and again even when I change schools. People just avoid being with me even when I try to follow whatever they do but it doesn't do anything to help me in the end. I was rejected, avoided and I didn't have any real friends that time but what can I do, I just have to live with it. 

It was not that serious during primary school cause that time all the girls was like not very mean but still rejected me and during that time I only have one best friend, but she didn't know what really happen cause I feel that if she knows about it, it will be a drag. It's also the same during my high school but at that time they were a lot meaner to me. Well, high school students know how to cover up everything better than kids right. When you're in a clique it will benefit you but me, I don't have a clique to join so people just act like I don't exist.

You must be wondering how I endured those stuff right? Well at first I was just being optimistic but don't ever give up on that because if you start to lose hope, everything just shatter into million pieces. Then, I try to find a real friend who believes in me, who is there for me whenever I need them and when I don't. There's sometimes I have bad dreams about this relation bullying and whenever I wake up the fear still haunts me but I always say to myself, I'm strong enough to end this with my own power and make sure to always smile because bullies doesn't like bullying someone who doesn't give a damn about them and that's what I did every day in those 8 years and thank god. Now I'm in College and people here don't do this relation bullying anymore.

So my advice to you is always smile even to your enemy because smiling makes you feel strong even if its just 30% of your true capacity.

by FAI, FMDZ
The writer is a student in University Of Selangor Malaysia, first semester student. She is taking Teaching English as a Second Language for her major  at the Faculty of Education and Social Science.